What’s so fun about being mysterious?
February 27th, 2006 by Yvonne
My friend, Yeeu Jen has been naming himself Anonymous on MSN for quite a few weeks now. He reminded me of how many people enjoy maintaining anonymity, portraying a mysterious image. I never understood the fun of being mysterious, because I’m a born extrovert.
The other day, I was chatting with Sam about some random stuffs, when I remarked on the hidden talents and personality he has. His reply was a bit sly. “I am a mysterious guy, Yvonne”. What’s so cool about being mysterious?!?
Many moons ago, John and I got into a rather personal discussion, and in reply to something I cannot disclose here, John said, “You think you know me, but you don’t!”
Is this a guy thing? Or does it come with gender equality? I don’t see that many girls going around acting mysterious, even though several guys have admitted craving for such girls.
If all guys are like that, then I’m a sore loser, because I’m definitely a far cry from being mysterious. Just read my blog and you will know.
Just yesterday, John and I were discussing about writing styles that appeal to the general public. He commented that my story in Book Project 2 is well written. I wondered how he could tell since he hasn’t read that piece before.
To which, he replied, “I can imagine how you would write”.
Sigh… I’m such an open book.
So what about you? Are you a mysterious person? Do you prefer mysterious people, or open books like me?
Posted in In My Humble Opinion |
February 27th, 2006 at 7:55 pm
Guys are not mysterious.
They are just trying pretending to be mysterious, bcoz they think this way will make girls go crazy about that.
Silly.
February 27th, 2006 at 8:41 pm
Everyone has their own way to present themself.
But i personally prefer open books.Well, at least you don’t have to hide your true self.
After all, those mysterious people will still have to be open book soon or later, don’t they?
It’s not easy to hide the inner you from you…
February 27th, 2006 at 9:37 pm
Being mysterious? what areas? Everything? Impossible!
There are things each individual, boy or girl, had to be mysterious, example, girls like their age to be mysterious. In article or personal writing, each individual have territories to protect, and at such chose to be mysterious.
There is nothing more mysterious than pretending to be great when we are not. Being open, can only mean talk straight but with due consideration to the feelings of others. We live in a social environment where religion, cultures, practices, and belief are not the same. At such, while talk straight and shoot straight is good, it must not cause harm or damage to the other parties. In short, be empathic.
February 27th, 2006 at 9:44 pm
oh yvonne! haha.. YESS.. i’ve come across this stage of wonderment before… and no its not just a guy thing, i’ve got girl friends who are all mysterious as well.. they totally attract guys to them somehow.
i on the otherhand, have discovered that i’m also , like you. an open book. lol.. can’t help it..
February 27th, 2006 at 11:34 pm
hehehehe…if u’re mysterious…i’ll be havin’ a hard time tryin’ to understand u. i like u as u are =P
February 28th, 2006 at 1:18 am
i guess people who hide have an issue with self esteem. Usually by the time you know these sort of people, you’ll be opening a can full of worms. There’s nothing more honorable than living in truth. Birds of the same feathers flock together…they are attracted to their kind. Truth and lies don’t blend well…..
February 28th, 2006 at 8:13 am
Lolz.. So much.. Analysis.. Makes me brain hurt.. Haha! I suppose I was the only critic of your Book Project piece..
A parting quote: “If knowledge is power, then to be unknown, is to be unconquerable..”
February 28th, 2006 at 10:10 am
agree with kenny
some too afraid to show too much of themself
i myself much prefer an open book
like u, like me =D
frankly, mysterious people give me too much headache
it’s too hard to read them
what they say might be otherwise
grrr like ‘beating around the bush’
February 28th, 2006 at 1:01 pm
my personal experience have taught me that being an open book will sometime make you be at an disadvantage. but being too mysterious isn’t something that is appealing to the general public. the key is moderation.
February 28th, 2006 at 2:22 pm
Kenny Exactly! I think mystery lies in our in-born personalities, cannot be faked. Say, if we have many talents that people do not know, then we are mysterious, aren’t we? haha!
Kacy Thanks for your opinion! I’m an open book too. *wink* nah just kidding…
Maverick Mysterious, I mean, pretending to be mysterious. Outspoken is another thing altogether.
Sarah yehlor. dunno why many open books are still single huh. sigh…
djcarmen opposite sttracts mah. :p
maotsetung yeah, sometimes. I dare not stereotype, for fear of offending the mysterious ones, like u!
john doe yeah you’re the only critic, but that’s what friends are for. We are honest to each other! I wouldn’t have asked you to review it, if I wasn’t prepared. lol! Thanks for the quote, but I have no fear of being conquered ar…
cherylleong yea… sometimes… fed up of cracking too many brains, so we leave them for the open books. lol!
sabrina yeah. so best thing to do is ask God to put nice people in our paths, so we won’t get hurt being open books. haha! nah just kidding. Trial and error, I guess.
February 28th, 2006 at 9:58 pm
There is no pretension of being mysterious. Either you are mysterious or be yourself. Wearing blinkers in blogging or what we call ghost writers are ways that some do as they are not able to be themselves. Having pen-name or nick-name is another!
February 28th, 2006 at 11:50 pm
Maverick Ah… that explains. So is Maverick your name?
March 1st, 2006 at 10:34 am
i checked around with some of my girlfriends their opinions about mysterious people…and shockingly 3 out of 4 answered that they find a guy erotic if there is a tinge of mystery surrounding him…..hmmmm…now that’s nice
March 1st, 2006 at 11:51 am
Some people think they are mysterious when they are not. And some are mysterious when they think they are not. Often we perceive someone to be mysterious when they are totally oblivious to their “aura” of mystery. But why the big hype about it?
Some girls may find it interesting if the guys have an air of mystery but really, I believe girls want to really understand their guys and the air of mystery carried too far doesn’t help!
No big deal here.
March 1st, 2006 at 11:54 am
On a lighter note, I once saw this attractive guy called Randy walk up to a girl he wanted to know. He introduces himself, “Hi! I am Randy but I am not really randy…” Now, was he mysterious nor not?
March 1st, 2006 at 3:27 pm
Maotsetung Wow! U actually did a survey on this? Oh well, perhaps mystery does ring a bell sometimes, but I prefer natural mystery and not pretentious.
Bayi That guy you were talking about, he was joking. Randy literally means uninhibited sexuality.
March 2nd, 2006 at 11:11 pm
Ya, Maverick is my call sign because my mother didn’t like me…
March 3rd, 2006 at 1:06 am
well, wat about me? you think i’m mysterious? well, i think being mysterious is sometimes not all that bad, but going too extreme might not be nice. but basically, some ppl have some bad experience in the past that make them wanting to be more mysterious.
April 14th, 2008 at 11:10 am
Somehow i stumble upon this website, and I found it interesting.
I consider myself a mysterious guy . I tell girls what they want to know about me when they ask, but I don’t find the need the tell them my whole life story. I believe that it makes relationship more interesting. If I lay my cards out at the beginning of a relationship then it would be boring because they know everything they need to know about me already. By keeping some things, it make girls wanting to know more about me.
April 14th, 2008 at 8:29 pm
tran: You meet new people often? Cuz if you do that to known friends, it might be a self-esteem issue.