What should I do with her money
October 19th, 2007 by Yvonne
Here goes something to consider. Pei Lee’s Maybank a/c currently has RM6,394.00. When we took Pei Lee to Sunway medical, she had about RM3,000. I guess people kept donating.
Pei Lee had been going to a Chinese Herbalist for two months who prescribed her some medicine daily. She claimed to have been healed because her pain ceased. (My doctors said pain is not associated with nerve damages so maybe it was something else). I haven’t seen her lately, so I don’t know how her walking looks like now.
Since Pei Lee does not need surgery soon, I wonder what am I going to do with the money meant for her.
1. Should I hand it to her? Treat it as a gift. Tell her it is for her medical treatment, but it is up to her how she wants to manage it.
2. Keep it in the bank, so when Pei Lee does need anything, we would have money ready for her. Something is not right with this choice, which I can’t pinpoint. Is it a legal issue? I feel odd having control over the money. There are others who may need help, which often makes me think I could be helping them.
3. Take the money and donate it to a good cause. Ah, I think this would go against the law as the account belongs to Pei Lee and besides, people donated to her, not anyone else.
4. Manage Pei Lee’s healthcare. ie. Pay for her periodic MRI scans. This is least viable as my ability and resources are lesser now. Mom started working again which means I can’t travel much. I also want Pei lee to be independent. When I pay for the MRIs, I would have to advise her which hospital to go to, and follow up with her doctor at that hospital, which is taxing.
Oh, yes, notably, the difference between private and government hospitals in Malaysia is the amount of effort a patient needs to put into managing their own health-care.
5. Squander the money!
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October 19th, 2007 at 10:13 am
I’d say teach her how to manage the money instead of you controlling it. It is meant for her after all, and she can use the money for daily necessities for her family a well.
She may even start her own business and be really self-reliant. Talk to her and ask?
October 19th, 2007 at 10:42 am
Silly Pat: You think that’s okay? Let her use the money for other things/ I am fine with it. Even better if it is used as a modal to something more. No questions asked, right, if we do that?
October 19th, 2007 at 12:16 pm
Well, is she really doesn’t need it, you could always donate it to someone who could use it. I’m sure there are lots of other deserving people out there that needs treatment for something or other but just doesn’t have the means.
October 19th, 2007 at 1:14 pm
Nick Phillips: I hear you. But the account we opened is under her name. I don’t know if doing what you suggested is ethical.
October 19th, 2007 at 6:03 pm
Shouldn’t you be asking her…it’s her money after all…
October 20th, 2007 at 12:03 am
Hmm but NF is a long way battle shouldn’t you try discuss with her as keeping in the bank as if the rainy day arrive atleast you have an umbrela ? Anyway juz a suggestion..Wish you and Pei Lee luck.
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